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Interview with Suresh Pitchaimuthu (Author of Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?) published as part of the Project Report Submitted by Ms NUPUR BHUTANI to UNIVERSITY OF DELHI IN PARTIAL FULFILLMENT OF THE REUIREMENTS FOR THE AWARD OF BACHELOR OF ARTS (H) JOURNALISM

1. Tell me about your book “Just Married: Have you Applied for Bail?”

The book is based on a true and touching story received at our NGO National Family Harmony Society®, Bangalore of a software engineer Rohit, who is trapped into marriage to grab his father’s property. It talks about the frauds of the modern day marriages in India. Husbands are landing in jails after marriage and spend the most productive part of their lives fighting numerous false court cases in a failed marriage.

This story is of a bright, talented and ambitious software engineer and his parents in Bangalore who are victims of the matrimonial laws of this country which are totally biased in favour of women. It is also a reflection of the current state of Indian society where, in the name of laws, the complete institution of marriage is being challenged and degraded.

 

2. What inspired you for writing this book?

When I got trapped in a similar situation I found that I was not alone. There are thousands of families which are being destroyed by the Gender Biased laws of this country which are totally in favour of women and gives no room or option to husband and his parents and siblings who are being harassed and tortured by their wives.

 

3. In your opinion, what is domestic violence and why only women are believed to be victims of domestic violence?

Domestic Violence is nothing but a behavior when a member in a domestic relation is abused by any other member in the same house hold. The problem is that Domestic Violence is often misunderstood as a term for physical abuse. The truth is that as per Hindu Marriage Act lacks of husbands have been granted divorce till date on the ground of cruelty. That itself proves that Husbands have been subjected to Violence and cruelty. I will give an example. While going to office my wife used to tell me “While going you will die under a truck”. Now is it not violence? Mental violence and Mental cruelty by wife is known to exist from ages and mental cruelty is more severe than any other form of violence but husband who are subjected to such violence suffer from within and don’t report it to the outside world.

Another problem is that the laws are made only for woman. E.g. under The Domestic Violence Act there is no provision for the husband to file a complaint against the wife. So there is no way or mechanism to collect the violence occurred on husbands. So the society presumes that only women are subjected to Domestic Violence, which is false.

 

4. According to you, why men hesitate to tell people that they are victims of domestic violence and why is it difficult for the society to believe it?

We can’t attribute a single reason for this but the primary reason is MEN are ashamed in reporting such incidents to the outside world for the fear that they will be mocked. Another reason is that they think that if they report no one will believe them and also there is no law under which they can report such incidents. E.g. under Domestic Violence Act and IPC 498A, only a wife can file a complaint not a husband.

 

5. Can you tell us something about your own experience?

I was not only subjected to physical but also severe mental cruelty and I went into depression. It took lot of courage and several months for me to come out of the trauma. I gathered courage only after I realized that I was not alone and there are thousands of husbands who are subjected to such cruel acts and violence by their wives.

 

6. How and what helped you to fight and come out of your situation?

My self confidence was with me because I realized that I have been cornered and trapped in a planned way. My determination to not to succumb to black mail and other pressure tactics helped me to fight back.

 

7. At present, what all are you doing to help men who are experiencing domestic violence in their life?

I started a NGO called National Family Harmony Society®. In the capacity as president of this NGO, I am creating awareness about the heavy misuse of the Gender biased laws e.g. Dowry Laws, 498A IPC, Domestic Violence Act, Child custody related laws and maintenance laws. NFHS is promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India.

 

8. What all are you doing to let the nation know that domestic violence on men exists in our society and that to a large extent?

We are creating awareness in the society that Domestic violence on MEN is a rule rather exception. Our NGO has been conducting Protest March, Dharna, Public Interest Litigation, petition to various authorities, participating in the parliament law making committees proceedings, press conference etc to name a few activities.

 

9. What is your suggestion for the men who are facing such problems but are scared or hesitant to speak up?

Don’t succumb and don’t tolerate violence. Be brave and fight back and contact MEN support groups in your cities.

 

10. Any last comments

Don’t bring coward thought of suicide in your mind. Life is precious for your near and dear one.

NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 11 Judges of Chhattisgarh High Court

2th April 2013 / Bangalore

To, Mr. Arvind Shrivastava,

Registrar General High Court of Chhattisgarh,

High Court of Chhattisgarh Bilaspur at Bodri,

CHHATTISGARH STATE, Pin-495220, phone: 07752-241021

Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.

About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society® NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.

 

Dear Sir,

 

The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.

 

We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.

 

Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.

 

We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.

 

We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?”  which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble  Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”

 

Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.

 

As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges directly with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to all the Hon’ble Judges of High Court through your office. Total 12 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition for kind circulation of the books to all the Hon’ble Judges including Chief Justice. Kindly arrange to keep the one book in the library of the High Court.

 

Jai Hind!!

With profound respects,

 

P Suresh, President, 09880141531

National Family Harmony Society

NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 35 Judges of Calcutta High Court

2th April 2013 / Bangalore

To,

Registrar General-Telephone-03322135472

The High Court of Calcutta, 3 Esplanade Row West,

Kolkata, Pin Code – 700 001, West Bengal

Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.

About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society® NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.

 

Dear Sir,

 

The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.

 

We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.

 

Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.

 

We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.

 

We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?”  which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble  Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”

 

Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.

 

As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges directly with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to all the Hon’ble Judges of High Court through your office. Total 41 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition for kind circulation of the books to all the Hon’ble Judges including Chief Justice. Kindly arrange to keep the one book in the library of the High Court.

 

 

Jai Hind!!

With profound respects,

 

P Suresh, President, 09880141531

National Family Harmony Society

NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 35 Judges of Delhi High Court

2th April 2013 / Bangalore

To,

Registrar General, Delhi High Court,

Sher Shah Road, New Delhi – 110003

Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.

About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society® NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.

 

Dear Sir,

 

The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.

 

We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.

 

Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.

 

We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.

 

We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?”  which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble  Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”

 

Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.

 

As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges directly with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to all the Hon’ble Judges of High Court through your office. Total 36 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition for kind circulation of the books to all the Hon’ble Judges including Chief Justice. Kindly arrange to keep the one book in the library of the High Court.

 

Jai Hind!!

With profound respects,

 

P Suresh, President, 09880141531

National Family Harmony Society

NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 31 Judges of Karnataka High Court-Bangalore

23th March 2013 / Bangalore

To,

Registrar General,

High Court of Karnataka,

High Court Buildings,

Opp. to Vidhana Saudha,

Ambedkar Veedhi,

Bangalore-560 001.

Phone: +(91)-(80)-22954864

Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.

About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society® NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.

 

Dear Sir,

 

The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.

 

We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.

 

Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.

 

We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.

 

We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?”  which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble  Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”

 

Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.

 

As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges directly with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to all the Hon’ble Judges through your office. Total 31 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition for kind circulation of the books to all the Hon’ble Judges including Chief Justice. Kindly arrange to keep the remaining books in the library of the High Court. For Dharwad and Gulbarga circuit bench we have sent books separately. So these 31 books are for Hon’ble Judges of Bangalore Principal bench and High Court Library.

 

Jai Hind!!

With profound respects,

 

P Suresh, President, 09880141531

National Family Harmony Society

NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 5 Judges of Karnataka High Court-Gulbarga

23th March 2013 / Bangalore

To,

The Registrar,

High Court Circuit Bench of Gulbarga,

High Court,

District: Gulbarga

State: Karnataka

Pin Code: 585101

Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.

About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society® NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.

 

Dear Sir,

 

The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.

 

We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.

 

Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.

 

We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.

 

We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?”  which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble  Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”

 

Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.

 

As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to the all the Judges through your office. Total 5 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition for kind circulation of the books to all the Hon’ble Judges. Kindly arrange to keep the remaining books in the library of the High Court.

 

Jai Hind!!

With profound respects,

 

P Suresh, President, 09880141531

National Family Harmony Society

NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 28 Judges of Gujarat High Court

21th March 2013 / Bangalore

To,

Mr. R.P.Dholaria, Registrar General,

High Court of Gujarat,

Near Akashwani, Navrangpura,

Ahmedabad, Gujarat, Phone-079-27662860

Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.

About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society® NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.

 

Dear Sir,

 

The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.

 

We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.

 

Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.

 

We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.

 

We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?”  which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble  Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”

 

Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.

 

As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to the below list of Judges through your office. Total 28 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition.

 

  1. Hon’ble Chief Justice Mr. Justice Bhaskar Bhattacharya
  2. Hon’ble Mr. Justice V. M. Sahai
  3. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Ravi R. Tripathi
  4. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Jayant M. Patel
  5. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Mukesh R. Shah
  6. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Kalpesh Satyendra Jhaveri
  7. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Akil Abdul Hamid Kureshi
  8. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Anant Surendraray Dave
  9. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Shailesh Ramanlal Brahmbhatt

10. Hon’ble Ms. Justice Harsha Devani

11. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Mukesh D. Shah

12. Hon’ble Ms. Justice Abhilasha Kumari

13. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Mohinder Pal

14. Hon’ble Mr. Justice K.M. Thaker

15. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Saiyed Zahiruddin Khairuddin

16. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Rajesh H Shukla

17. Hon’ble Mr. Justice R.M. Chhaya

18. Hon’ble Mr. Justice J.B. Pardiwala

19. Hon’ble Mr. Justice G.B. Shah

20. Hon’ble Ms. Justice S.G. Gokani

21. Hon’ble Mr. Justice C.L. Soni

22. Hon’ble Mr. Justice A.J. Desai

23. Hon’ble Mr. Justice N.V. Anjaria

24. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Paresh Upadhyay

25. Hon’ble Mr. Justice S.G.Shah

26. Hon’ble Mr. Justice S.H.Vora

27. Hon’ble Mr. Justice G.R.Udhwani

28. Hon’ble Mr. Justice R.D.Kothari

 

 

Jai Hind!!

With profound respects,

 

 

P Suresh, President, 09880141531

National Family Harmony Society