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Interview with Suresh Pitchaimuthu (Author of Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?) published as part of the Project Report Submitted by Ms NUPUR BHUTANI to UNIVERSITY OF DELHI IN PARTIAL FULFILLMENT OF THE REUIREMENTS FOR THE AWARD OF BACHELOR OF ARTS (H) JOURNALISM
1. Tell me about your book “Just Married: Have you Applied for Bail?”
The book is based on a true and touching story received at our NGO National Family Harmony Society®, Bangalore of a software engineer Rohit, who is trapped into marriage to grab his father’s property. It talks about the frauds of the modern day marriages in India. Husbands are landing in jails after marriage and spend the most productive part of their lives fighting numerous false court cases in a failed marriage.
This story is of a bright, talented and ambitious software engineer and his parents in Bangalore who are victims of the matrimonial laws of this country which are totally biased in favour of women. It is also a reflection of the current state of Indian society where, in the name of laws, the complete institution of marriage is being challenged and degraded.
2. What inspired you for writing this book?
When I got trapped in a similar situation I found that I was not alone. There are thousands of families which are being destroyed by the Gender Biased laws of this country which are totally in favour of women and gives no room or option to husband and his parents and siblings who are being harassed and tortured by their wives.
3. In your opinion, what is domestic violence and why only women are believed to be victims of domestic violence?
Domestic Violence is nothing but a behavior when a member in a domestic relation is abused by any other member in the same house hold. The problem is that Domestic Violence is often misunderstood as a term for physical abuse. The truth is that as per Hindu Marriage Act lacks of husbands have been granted divorce till date on the ground of cruelty. That itself proves that Husbands have been subjected to Violence and cruelty. I will give an example. While going to office my wife used to tell me “While going you will die under a truck”. Now is it not violence? Mental violence and Mental cruelty by wife is known to exist from ages and mental cruelty is more severe than any other form of violence but husband who are subjected to such violence suffer from within and don’t report it to the outside world.
Another problem is that the laws are made only for woman. E.g. under The Domestic Violence Act there is no provision for the husband to file a complaint against the wife. So there is no way or mechanism to collect the violence occurred on husbands. So the society presumes that only women are subjected to Domestic Violence, which is false.
4. According to you, why men hesitate to tell people that they are victims of domestic violence and why is it difficult for the society to believe it?
We can’t attribute a single reason for this but the primary reason is MEN are ashamed in reporting such incidents to the outside world for the fear that they will be mocked. Another reason is that they think that if they report no one will believe them and also there is no law under which they can report such incidents. E.g. under Domestic Violence Act and IPC 498A, only a wife can file a complaint not a husband.
5. Can you tell us something about your own experience?
I was not only subjected to physical but also severe mental cruelty and I went into depression. It took lot of courage and several months for me to come out of the trauma. I gathered courage only after I realized that I was not alone and there are thousands of husbands who are subjected to such cruel acts and violence by their wives.
6. How and what helped you to fight and come out of your situation?
My self confidence was with me because I realized that I have been cornered and trapped in a planned way. My determination to not to succumb to black mail and other pressure tactics helped me to fight back.
7. At present, what all are you doing to help men who are experiencing domestic violence in their life?
I started a NGO called National Family Harmony Society®. In the capacity as president of this NGO, I am creating awareness about the heavy misuse of the Gender biased laws e.g. Dowry Laws, 498A IPC, Domestic Violence Act, Child custody related laws and maintenance laws. NFHS is promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India.
8. What all are you doing to let the nation know that domestic violence on men exists in our society and that to a large extent?
We are creating awareness in the society that Domestic violence on MEN is a rule rather exception. Our NGO has been conducting Protest March, Dharna, Public Interest Litigation, petition to various authorities, participating in the parliament law making committees proceedings, press conference etc to name a few activities.
9. What is your suggestion for the men who are facing such problems but are scared or hesitant to speak up?
Don’t succumb and don’t tolerate violence. Be brave and fight back and contact MEN support groups in your cities.
10. Any last comments
Don’t bring coward thought of suicide in your mind. Life is precious for your near and dear one.
NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 11 Judges of Chhattisgarh High Court
2th April 2013 / Bangalore
To, Mr. Arvind Shrivastava,
Registrar General High Court of Chhattisgarh,
High Court of Chhattisgarh Bilaspur at Bodri,
CHHATTISGARH STATE, Pin-495220, phone: 07752-241021
Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.
About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society®” NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.
Dear Sir,
The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.
We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.
Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.
We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.
We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”
Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.
As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges directly with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to all the Hon’ble Judges of High Court through your office. Total 12 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition for kind circulation of the books to all the Hon’ble Judges including Chief Justice. Kindly arrange to keep the one book in the library of the High Court.
Jai Hind!!
With profound respects,
P Suresh, President, 09880141531
National Family Harmony Society
NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 35 Judges of Calcutta High Court
2th April 2013 / Bangalore
To,
Registrar General-Telephone-03322135472
The High Court of Calcutta, 3 Esplanade Row West,
Kolkata, Pin Code – 700 001, West Bengal
Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.
About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society®” NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.
Dear Sir,
The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.
We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.
Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.
We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.
We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”
Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.
As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges directly with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to all the Hon’ble Judges of High Court through your office. Total 41 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition for kind circulation of the books to all the Hon’ble Judges including Chief Justice. Kindly arrange to keep the one book in the library of the High Court.
Jai Hind!!
With profound respects,
P Suresh, President, 09880141531
National Family Harmony Society
NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 35 Judges of Delhi High Court
2th April 2013 / Bangalore
To,
Registrar General, Delhi High Court,
Sher Shah Road, New Delhi – 110003
Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.
About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society®” NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.
Dear Sir,
The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.
We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.
Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.
We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.
We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”
Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.
As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges directly with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to all the Hon’ble Judges of High Court through your office. Total 36 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition for kind circulation of the books to all the Hon’ble Judges including Chief Justice. Kindly arrange to keep the one book in the library of the High Court.
Jai Hind!!
With profound respects,
P Suresh, President, 09880141531
National Family Harmony Society
NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 31 Judges of Karnataka High Court-Bangalore
23th March 2013 / Bangalore
To,
Registrar General,
High Court of Karnataka,
High Court Buildings,
Opp. to Vidhana Saudha,
Ambedkar Veedhi,
Bangalore-560 001.
Phone: +(91)-(80)-22954864
Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.
About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society®” NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.
Dear Sir,
The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.
We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.
Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.
We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.
We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”
Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.
As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges directly with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to all the Hon’ble Judges through your office. Total 31 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition for kind circulation of the books to all the Hon’ble Judges including Chief Justice. Kindly arrange to keep the remaining books in the library of the High Court. For Dharwad and Gulbarga circuit bench we have sent books separately. So these 31 books are for Hon’ble Judges of Bangalore Principal bench and High Court Library.
Jai Hind!!
With profound respects,
P Suresh, President, 09880141531
National Family Harmony Society
NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 5 Judges of Karnataka High Court-Gulbarga
23th March 2013 / Bangalore
To,
The Registrar,
High Court Circuit Bench of Gulbarga,
High Court,
District: Gulbarga
State: Karnataka
Pin Code: 585101
Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.
About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society®” NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.
Dear Sir,
The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.
We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.
Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.
We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.
We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”
Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.
As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to the all the Judges through your office. Total 5 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition for kind circulation of the books to all the Hon’ble Judges. Kindly arrange to keep the remaining books in the library of the High Court.
Jai Hind!!
With profound respects,
P Suresh, President, 09880141531
National Family Harmony Society
NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 28 Judges of Gujarat High Court
21th March 2013 / Bangalore
To,
Mr. R.P.Dholaria, Registrar General,
High Court of Gujarat,
Near Akashwani, Navrangpura,
Ahmedabad, Gujarat, Phone-079-27662860
Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.
About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society®” NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.
Dear Sir,
The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.
We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.
Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.
We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.
We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”
Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.
As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to the below list of Judges through your office. Total 28 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition.
- Hon’ble Chief Justice Mr. Justice Bhaskar Bhattacharya
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice V. M. Sahai
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Ravi R. Tripathi
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Jayant M. Patel
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Mukesh R. Shah
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Kalpesh Satyendra Jhaveri
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Akil Abdul Hamid Kureshi
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Anant Surendraray Dave
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Shailesh Ramanlal Brahmbhatt
10. Hon’ble Ms. Justice Harsha Devani
11. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Mukesh D. Shah
12. Hon’ble Ms. Justice Abhilasha Kumari
13. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Mohinder Pal
14. Hon’ble Mr. Justice K.M. Thaker
15. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Saiyed Zahiruddin Khairuddin
16. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Rajesh H Shukla
17. Hon’ble Mr. Justice R.M. Chhaya
18. Hon’ble Mr. Justice J.B. Pardiwala
19. Hon’ble Mr. Justice G.B. Shah
20. Hon’ble Ms. Justice S.G. Gokani
21. Hon’ble Mr. Justice C.L. Soni
22. Hon’ble Mr. Justice A.J. Desai
23. Hon’ble Mr. Justice N.V. Anjaria
24. Hon’ble Mr. Justice Paresh Upadhyay
25. Hon’ble Mr. Justice S.G.Shah
26. Hon’ble Mr. Justice S.H.Vora
27. Hon’ble Mr. Justice G.R.Udhwani
28. Hon’ble Mr. Justice R.D.Kothari
Jai Hind!!
With profound respects,
P Suresh, President, 09880141531
National Family Harmony Society
NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 26 Judges of Bombay High Court
20th March 2013 / Bangalore
To,
The Registrar General
Bombay High Court, Fort, Mumbai -32
Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.
About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society®” NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.
Dear Sir,
The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.
We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.
Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.
We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.
We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”
Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.
As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to the below list of Judges through your office. Total 26 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition to be kindly circulated to the current sitting judges.
Jai Hind!!
With profound respects,
P Suresh, President, 09880141531, National Family Harmony Society
NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 9 Judges of Bombay High Court-NAGPUR Bench
20th March 2013 / Bangalore
To,
The Registrar,
Bombay High Court-NAGPUR Bench,
CIVIL LINES, Nagpur,
Maharashtra 440001
Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.
About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society®” NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.
Dear Sir,
The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.
We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.
Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.
We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.
We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”
Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.
As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to the below list of Judges through your office. Total 9 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition to be kindly circulated to the current sitting judges.
Jai Hind!!
With profound respects,
P Suresh, President, 09880141531
National Family Harmony Society
NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 12 Judges of Bombay High Court AT Aurangabad
20th March 2013 / Bangalore
To,
The Registrar,
Bombay High Court AT Aurangabad,
Aurangabad Bench, High Court Building,
Aurangabad, Maharashtra, Pin code 431005
Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.
About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society®” NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.
Dear Sir,
The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.
We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.
Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.
We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.
We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”
Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.
As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to the below list of Judges through your office. Total 12 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition to be kindly circulated to all the current sitting judges.
Jai Hind!!
With profound respects,
P Suresh, President, 09880141531
National Family Harmony Society
NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 5 Judges of BOMBAY HIGH COURT AT GOA (PANAJI)
20th March 2013 / Bangalore
To,
Registrar,
BOMBAY HIGH COURT AT GOA (PANAJI)
Althino, Panaji (Panjim),
GA 403001, India
Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.
About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society®” NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.
Dear Sir,
The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.
We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.
Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.
We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.
We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”
Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.
As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to the below list of Judges through your office. Total 5 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition to be kindly circulated to the current sitting judges.
Jai Hind!!
With profound respects,
P Suresh, President, 09880141531
National Family Harmony Society
NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 9 Judges of UttaraKhand High Court
20th March 2013 / Bangalore
To,
Sri. Ram Singh,
Registrar General,
High Court of Uttarakhand,
Nainital, Uttarakhand State
Pin – 263001, Ph. No- 05942-232085
Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?” on the same issue.
About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society®” NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.
Dear Sir,
The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion have acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and had termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and relentlessly requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.
We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.
Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!! Similarly under 498A police accepts only complaint of daughter-in-law but there is no provision for mother-in-law to file complaint against cruelty and harassment from daughter-in-law.
We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.
We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”
Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.
As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to the below list of Judges through your office. Total 9 copies of book are attached herewith alongwith this petition.
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Barin Ghosh
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Kalyan Jyoti Sengupta
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Prafulla C. Pant
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Brahma Singh Verma
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice V.K. Bist
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Sudhanshu Dhulia
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Alok Singh
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Servesh Kumar Gupta
- Hon’ble Mr. Justice Umesh Chandra Dhyani
Jai Hind!!
With profound respects,
P Suresh, President, 09880141531
National Family Harmony Society
List of books to be sent to various authorities
SUPREME COURT AND HIGH COURTS
KARNATAKA
BANGALORE URBAN COURTS
DELHI
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High courts sponsored but to be sent (will be sent soon)
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1. Madras-10 copies spoonsored – Waiting for someone to pitch in for remaining
2. Vermeet Taneja agreed for Supreme Court
3. drdsathya: Several High courts (Has been Kind enough to let me chose the High Courts)
4. amresh: 10 copies for patna HC: NFHS will pool remaining from the donation of drdsathya
5. MP-GWALIOR: Dr. Anip garg has agreed.
6. UP: Couple of brothers have taken initiative, NFHS will will pool remaining from the donation of drdsathya
7. ??? Remaining we are waiting. You need not sponsor a complete High Court. Depending on your capacity. Remaining NFHS will pool in from the pool of drdsathya
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High Court Covered and already sent
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1. Uttarakhand High Court
2. AP High Court
3. Mumbai High Court
3a. 9 copies to Bombay High Court-NAGPUR Bench
https://498amisuse.wordpress.com/2013/03/20/nfhs-sends-reality-fiction-just-married-have-you-applied-for-bail-to-all-9-judges-of-bombay-high-court-nagpur-bench/
3b. 12 copies to Bombay High Court AT Aurangabad
https://498amisuse.wordpress.com/2013/03/20/nfhs-sends-reality-fiction-just-married-have-you-applied-for-bail-to-all-12-judges-of-bombay-high-court-at-aurangabad/
3c .5 copies to BOMBAY HIGH COURT AT GOA (PANAJI)
https://498amisuse.wordpress.com/2013/03/20/nfhs-sends-reality-fiction-just-married-have-you-applied-for-bail-to-all-5-judges-of-bombay-high-court-at-goa-panaji/
26 copies to Bombay High Court
https://498amisuse.wordpress.com/2013/03/20/nfhs-sends-reality-fiction-just-married-have-you-applied-for-bail-to-all-26-judges-of-bombay-high-court/
4. Gujarat High Court
https://498amisuse.wordpress.com/2013/03/21/nfhs-sends-reality-fiction-just-married-have-you-applied-for-bail-to-all-28-judges-of-gujarat-high-court/
5. Punjab and Haryana HC
6. Karnataka High Court
6a. 5 copies to gulbarga circuit bench
6b. 4 copies to dharwad circuit bench
6c. 31 copies to principal bench bangalore
7. Delhi High Court
8. Calcutta High Court
9. Chattisgarh High Court
NFHS sends reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” to all 25 Judges of AP High Court
17th March 2011 / Bangalore
To,
Sri T.Sunil Chowdary, Registrar General,
Andhra Pradesh High Court, Near Govt. City College,
Madina, Charminar, HYDERABAD – 500 066
Subject: Heavy misuse of 498A IPC and launch of Reality Fiction Novel “Just Married: Have You Applied for Bail?”
About National Family Harmony Society®: “National Family Harmony Society®” NFHS is a Non Governmental Organization (NGO) promoting the cause of “family harmony” and “gender equality”. It is registered under “The Karnataka Societies Registration Act, 1960” and is based in Bangalore. We have branches in more than 16 states and in abroad too. We have approximately 16500 members all over India. To know more about us please visit http://www.family-harmony.org / http://www.498a.org.in.
Dear Sir,
The misuse of 498A IPC and other matrimonial laws is an open secret. Even the Hon’ble Supreme Court of India and various High Courts on more than one occasion has acknowledged the heavy misuse of 498A and has termed it as “Legal Terror”. Our NGO has been creating awareness in the society and requesting government from several years that there is a serious need to urgently overhaul all the matrimonial laws and to make all of them “Gender Neutral”.
We have been trying relentlessly over several years to convince the government that crime has nothing to do with gender and anyone can be perpetrator of crime irrespective of gender.
Things would have been still better but for the insensitivity of the Government to make laws only for young married woman. E.g. if we take the example of Protection of Woman from Domestic Violence Act, it does not provide any protection to sisters and mothers of husband even though they are also woman!!
We have been holding Protest, Dharna, PILs, Press Conferences, Protest march, Petitioning Government etc, but of no avail. Government seems to be in no mood to listen to us and has turned a blind eye towards us.
We have high hopes from Judiciary which over several years have been consistently acknowledging heavy misuse of 498A IPC and other gender biased laws. Our NGO has recently published a reality fiction “Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?” which is more or less in similarity with the sarcastic remark once made by the vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi of Hon’ble Supreme court that “Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed,”
Our NGO has attached a copy of the book for your kind consideration and reading with high hopes that Judiciary will deal with the misuse cases with iron hand so that innocents are not punished and the well intentioned laws are not misused.
As it is not fair on part of any NGO or citizen to directly approach Hon’ble Judges with any grievances or petition, hence requesting you to kindly circulate a copy of the above book to the below list of Judges through your office. Total 25 copies are attached herewith alongwith this petition.
- Hon’ble The Acting Chief Justice N.V.Ramana
- Hon’ble Ms. Justice G.Rohini
- Hon’ble Sri Justice Ashutosh Mohunta
- Hon’ble Sri Justice L.Narasimha Reddy
- Hon’ble Sri Justice R.Subhash Reddy
- Hon’ble Sri Justice K.C.Bhanu
- Hon’ble Sri Justice B.Seshasayana Reddy
- Hon’ble Sri Justice G.Chandraiah
- Hon’ble Sri Justice Ramesh Ranganathan
- Hon’ble Sri Justice G.Bhavani Prasad
- Hon’ble Sri Justice Nooty. Ramamohana Rao
- Hon’ble Sri Justice C.V.Nagarjuna Reddy
- Hon’ble Sri Justice R.Kantha Rao
- Hon’ble Sri Justice Vilas V.Afzulpurkar
- Hon’ble Sri Justice P.V.Sanjay Kumar
- Hon’ble Sri Justice B.Chandra Kumar
- Hon’ble Sri Justice Raja. Elango
- Hon’ble Sri Sri Justice B.N.Rao Nalla
- Hon’ble Sri Justice Samudrala Govinda Rajulu
- Hon’ble Sri Justice Noushad Ali
- Hon’ble Sri Justice N.R.L.Nageswara Rao
- Hon’ble Sri Justice K.G.Shankar
- Hon’ble Sri Justice N.Ravi Shankar
- Hon’ble Sri Justice C.Praveen Kumar
- Hon’ble Sri Justice M.S.Ramachanra Rao
Jai Hind!!
With profound respects,
P Suresh, President, 09880141531
National Family Harmony Society
Copies of “Just married? Have you applied bail?” being displayed by members of AIFWA at Jantar Mantar, Delhi on 09-03-2013 on the “Forgotten women’s day”
Copies of “Just married? Have you applied bail?” being released and displayed by members of AIFWA at Jantar Mantar, Delhi on 09-03-2013 on the “Forgotten women’s day”
50 copies sold at the venue and order for 200 more!!!
Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?
Dear all,
Finally the book is out!!!
“Just Married: Have You Applied For Bail?”
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Published by one of the largest publisher in India LeadStart Publishing Pvt Ltd. As of now it is available in Crossword online. Soon I will post the links of other leading online portals. The intention of writing this book was never to make profit and hence I have kept the price at 125/- to ensure that it reaches the hands of large number of people. Requesting everyone to make it popular by liking the below facebook link. The book will be available in the leading book stores in 6-8 weeks.
https://www.facebook.com/JustMarriedHaveYouAppliedForBail
Back Cover Blurb
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Marrying and applying for bail to avoid jail!! Confused, puzzled and shocked….Isn’t it? But that’s the truth about modern day marriages in India. Husbands are landing in jails after marriage and spend the most productive part of their lives fighting numerous false court cases in a failed marriage. This is a true story of a bright, talented and ambitious software engineer and his parents in Bangalore who are victims of the matrimonial laws of this country which are totally biased in favour of women. It is also a reflection of the current state of Indian society where, in the name of laws, the complete institution of marriage is being challenged and degraded. A touching story which must be read by everyone who is married and particularly by those who are recently married or planning to marry.
Thiagarajan (Actor/Director & Producer) & Prashanth (Actor)
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“Dowry law misuse is increasing by each day and many innocents are being jailed on false allegations of dowry demand. This Novel is an excellent attempt by Author to create awareness about misuse of dowry law. A must read by all who are married or about to marry…”
Suhaib Iliyasi – Bollywood Writer, Producer, Director & the host of India’s first reality TV show, “India’s Most Wanted”.“
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Although the unfortunate death of my school friend Syed Makhdoom compelled me to make this feature film, however It is indeed Author’s website http://www.498a.org.in from where I drew inspiration to create most of the real life characters for the film, ‘498a-The Wedding Gift’. I recommend that this book is a must read for all regardless of age, gender or religion”
Kindly visit this page and like it…
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https://www.facebook.com/JustMarriedHaveYouAppliedForBail
You can order it online from here…
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http://www.crossword.in/books/Just-Married/p-books-9789382473213.html
Regards
Suresh P
Bangalore HelpLine-09880141531,9731569970
I blog at :https://498amisuse.wordpress.com/
NGO Website :http://498a.org.in/
NGO Website :http://family-harmony.org/
Facebook profile:http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/profile.php?id=1826352350
Awareness on FB :http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/groups/216895415013287/?ap=1
Twitter :http://twitter.com/#!/psuresh29
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